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The Female Body Size and Confidence Issue – From Guys’ POV? February 20, 2013

Note: I’m not gonna bother to censor any of their names, when you post a comment on a public page, jolly well expect it to be public else where too. I’ll only censor names when conversations are held in a place the other party expect it to be private, like a private chat, or facebook profile.

You can actually consider this to be just a rant.

You can also skip down directly to my opinions on such issues, and ignore this long argument.

Just a while ago, I got into this argument with a guy on the Singapore Poly’s confession page, about whether a fat person love and respect themselves.

Here’s the original confession,

 

Of course, being the Aries I am, I posted a reply.

Some people try to defend the person’s thinking, but I countered it either way.

Then this guy came in, his thinking is almost identical to the person who posted the confession.

My reply.

This guy continued to counter me, but in a way which I believe religious people would.

Then I gave my final reply because at the end of the day, all these argument provided for me was running in circles, just the same thing over and over again.

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I really wish I could speak like TheAmazingAtheist, have a good quality camera, and do this on Youtube instead.

First and foremost, they are guys.

To all my male readers out there, if you’re a guy, don’t try to act like you understand girls well enough.

Because you almost never will, and unless if you’ve been inside the brain of each and every girl on this planet, don’t try to act as though you do.

You can understand the few girls that you’ve dated, your sister, mother, or even grandmother, but that’s just the tip of the iceberg.

There are times even girls do not understand ourselves, but we see through things females do a lot easier than you can.

What seem confident about a girl to you? How much skin she dares to show?

Let me tell you, the more a girl flaunt her body, the less confident she is.

How is that even possible?

Because she’s fishing for you compliment, she wants to flaunt it so as to feel loved and wanted.

Surprising huh?

A true confident lady don’t need to flaunt anything, she don’t need to show her body to you to prove that she’s confident, confidence is an attitude, not an action.

Now moving on to fat pride.

Almost everyone on the comment section assumed that I’m fat… Well I can’t exactly say am I fat or not, but for those of you who had seen me in real life, you can be the judge.

I’m not thin or fit, that’s for sure.

The people on the comment section kept repeating one thing, which is, ‘Fat people have no self love and self respect, they don’t love their body’.

How do you love your body? Love itself is very abstract.

Let me use an apple as an example. I love this apple, so, am I gonna eat it, or not? Because I love it, but love it as in, eating it? Or preserving it and hugging and and taking care of it?

That’s the giant flaw in their argument, how can you define how another person love something else.

A person love his or her body because she simply love and accept everything of themselves, or a person love his or her body because they’re taking care of it?

I hate arguing about abstract things, such as God.

Because there’s no basis to what you’re saying, no real life example, no hard solid evidence which I can counter.

You’re giving me a thinking, an ideal, like making me a castle in the sky, and expect me to jump onto it.

The entire time, these guys were trying to tell me what sort of girls attract them.

Guess what, I don’t give a fuck.

The other guy even tried to do it on a personal level, by telling me I’m unattractive to him.

Guess what, I don’t give a fuck.

I have a boyfriend, so why the fuck do I care? As long as he loves me for me, he thinks I’m attractive, I’m not gonna give a shit to what other guys think.
(Which is the direct evidence my previous post about weight and size issues is valid, the opinion of someone we love is way more important than a stranger’s)

It’s funny, because throughout my argument, I’ve never said anything like, “you should date fat girls, you should be attracted to them’.

The entire time, I was trying to explain that every living human being can have self love and self respect, regardless of their size, race, age, sexual-orientation, anyone can love themselves, why are you saying these people don’t?!

Simply because they don’t follow your lifestyle? They’re not like you?

So can I say that, a guy who takes half nude pictures of themselves and post it online have no self love and respect for himself? Because that’s exactly what he did.

I clicked on his profile, and I see himself taking half nude pictures of himself.

I’m gonna say, you have no self respect for your body because you’re showing it to the entire world.

But no, that’s just my opinion, I can’t force it on you.

In fact that’s not even my opinion, for those of you who still don’t realise it, I’m simply using it as an example.

Yet the entire time, they’re trying to tell me, oh I love a girl who train herself, who lift weights, who stay fit.

Yeah, so the fuck what? I didn’t mention no shit about girls you’re attracted to, you can say, you love girls with D cup boobs, and I won’t give a single fuck.

Because that’s your opinion, something I won’t even bother trying to control or change, why would I? Who are you to me? Not like you’re my 12 year old daughter falling in love with a pedophile.

Actually, I do understand why they keep mentioning it, they’re trying to seek reassurance from me, try to get me to say, ‘yeah those girls are the best, fat chicks are not worthy, everyone should date fit chicks’.

You, my dear reader, should know that I won’t.

I adore fat people, I adore them, I adore how chubby and nice it is to hug them, I fucking love it when they have poise and pride, when they’re happy to be who they are.

I adore fit people, I adore their dedication, I adore how they can be the perfect anatomy model for my drawing assignments, I love the determination in their eyes to reach their own personal goals.

One last thing that got me very annoyed is that, these guys thinks that, if a girl is fit, she must be really confident, if a girl is fat, she must have no confidence at all.

Now, if you’re a guy, let me lead you to explore the female brain a little, if you’re a female, let’s just review on this thing we can all agree on.

99.9% of the females on this planet, are not 100% happy with themselves.

Which brought about the famous Dove advertisement, that told all the ladies, you’re beautiful for who you are, and don’t think otherwise.

If you don’t know about it, here’s a video.

Dove realised one thing, most ladies aren’t happy with themselves, they want to become someone else, usually someone on TV, or megazines, someone who they believe is perfect.

No matter how fit, skinny, plump, fat, tall, short a girl is, they won’t be happy with themselves.

If you think that the lady in a club, her make up is perfect…

Have you ever think about this, why is she wearing make up then? If she’s confident about herself?

If she work out, is she really trying to stay fit, or just because someone told her they don’t have her size for a beautiful dress she saw in a shop?

This is one thing most guys always don’t understand, females are like that, and if your girlfriend ever ask you, is she fat?

Don’t, don’t you dare, don’t you ever tell her, ‘yes’.

The answer is always NO.

Unless if you want to cripple her confidence for the rest of her life, and make her hate herself.

Anorexia and bulimia exist for a reason, people die from it, our society is hard on us, and yet these guys are still trying to tell girls, ‘you’re fat, go work out, if not I won’t even giving you a second look’.

You’d be surprised how many people agreed with the confession, liked it, shared it, hailed the guy who posted the confession as a hero.

You don’t ever, EVER talk about a girl’s size like that, and act like you’re justified.

There are girls, who have the BMI that is considered underweight, who STILL think they’re fat.

And here you are, saying, ‘fat chicks don’t deserve my second look’.

Did you know that, girls who consider themselves as fat, aren’t limited to just girls who are overweight?

Even skinny girls will cry about how they think they’re fat, even the fit girls might feel like they’re not ‘fit’ enough.

The dream girl these guys are looking for, is a mere 0.01% of the entire female population, and might become extinct if these guys continue with their attitude.

I believe those guys barely knew much about love, and you might agree or disagree with me.

But if you love someone, and they grow fat, if you’re giving them up simply because of that, no, you don’t love them.

Love is beyond superficial things like looks or money, love is a choice you make.

You choose to continue loving that person, no matter what they become, no matter whether do they lose a leg or completely have their face ruined, you love them anyway, and never give them up.

That is love, despite the fact I’m a non-religious person, I have a huge respect for the Roman Catholic marriage vow, which is the following.

“I, ____, take you, ____, to be my (husband/wife). I promise to be true to you in good times and in bad, in sickness and in health. I will love you and honor you all the days of my life.”

In good times and in bad, in sickness and in health, that is love, not something like, ‘the moment you grow fat, I’ll want to give you up’.

No, that’s not love, that’s just attraction.

That’s end of this long post about somethings in life I just can’t agree with, sorry if you hated it, thank you if you loved it.

Also terribly sorry for my long absence, I’m being honest here, was REALLY busy with school, barely even had time to sleep, but right now it’s my holidays, and I hope I can squeeze more blog posts out of myself.

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